Newbie Natural…|5 basics

So are you are new natural or as confused as I was when I began my journey? (Let’s not even mention lusting after long tresses from other natural hair gurus). Are you planning to walk into the shop to begin your purchases? Well, I have a couple of ideas for you… especially if you are in Kenya.

Where to go:

  • Your kitchen : its valuable, lots of stuff come from here… you won’t even believe

  • Supermarket: I find Nakumatt quite stocked. You may opt for other supermarkets.

  • Super Cosmetics : its singlehandedly the largest stocker of natural friendly products at a relatively fair price

  • Facebook vendors: they are life savers. Get one from an established source like Tricia’s Naturals Marketplace

So let’s begin…

1. Three letters: L.O.C

The Key to healthy natural hair is maintaining moisture in your hair. For moisture to be maintained we need to introduce moisture into our hair first hence the L in L.O.C. it stands for liquid. Water is the ONLY liquid that can introduce moisture into our strands. Water is free!

The O in L.O.C is for oil. It is best to buy food grade oil like Extra Virgin Olive oil or Coconut oil to get the nutrients in their most pure forms. These oils are also great for your skin. One or two oils are just okay, don’t break your bank.

The C in L.O.C is for Cream. This helps seal in the moisture. Shea butter or any butter (mango, cocoa) that includes petroleum Jelly can do the job just fine. Petroleum products however need to be washed out of the hair with harsh shampoos so caution should be taken when using it.

2. Shampoo

Sulfate free shampoo should be priority at all times unless you are using harsh ingredients all the time. If you have to use a sulfates shampoo, opt for kinder versions like laureth sulfates as opposed to lauryl sulphates. Generally sulphates shampoos should be used once in six to eight weeks and hair should be conditioned afterwards.

I learnt a super easy sulfate free shampoo DIY recipe that I will share soon on the blog. Hang around.

3. Spray Bottle

This will facilitate moisturizing your hair and can easily be obtained in a supermarket.

A simple recipe to incorporate in the mix:

  • Water

  • 1 teaspoon of conditioner

  • Glycerine/ aloevera juice

  • 1 tablespoon of your favourite oil

Mix well and spray away, let your strands soak in the moisture.

4. Satin scarf

To sleep with. Satin unlike cotton helps keep moisture in the hair longer so do yourself a favor and get one.

5. Patience

Hair takes time to grow… don’t get frustrated just hang in there. With the right diet and lifestyle you should be just fine.

Love and love

Nyake.

What love is | a weird combination

Heyy everyone…

One of the hardest things to do on social media is being absolutely honest. There is this pressure in social media in general to look like you have all your act together. It’s kind of an addictive habit, but once in a while… the world caves in for us and it’s healthy to admit that we have trouble trying to achieve what we have put our minds to. It’s a healthy part of your life.

It feels good to be back after one month. I’m really sorry for the absence; let us just say life happens. Lots of stuff has been going on which made it a little hard to come on here and share a thought or two. That notwithstanding, I’m back. How have you been holding up?

I was going to share food ideas today, (or should I say that was the original intention of this post) but something more touching occurred. As I mentioned earlier, life has been happening a lot and not necessarily in the positive. I have had more than one emotional breakdowns in the past couple of weeks, and this is usually the time creativity flies out of the window. Let’s call this the meh moments. Technically content creation has been the last thing on my mind.

One day when I was particularly low, I got these whatsapp texts from B that put a huge smile on my face. Turns out he went to the kitchen and prepped a meal and took his time to document it so that I can blog it up here. So this post isn’t really about food per se… (This is assuming we can all fry potatoes or at least have some form of knowledge on how to do so) it’s really about the thought behind it.

B doesn’t exactly light up to the thought of cooking much less alone. So for him to get down to preparing a meal however basic and take his time to do it well means a lot. In addition to that, he takes time to document it for me (considering the anti-photocity (is this even a word?) of the male gender) #instagramhusband .

Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” -C.S Lewis

It is not in the big things… but in the small things that love is expressed.

How have you been shown love in a small way that absolutely blew your mind away?

Love and love

Nyake.

What love is | a weird combination

Heyy everyone…

One of the hardest things to do on social media is being absolutely honest. There is this pressure in social media in general to look like you have all your act together. It’s kind of an addictive habit, but once in a while… the world caves in for us and it’s healthy to admit that we have trouble trying to achieve what we have put our minds to.  It’s a healthy part of your life.

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Protective styling | natural hair

Hey loves,

I am just over a year a year natural…more like just over a year of being heat free and salon free. I finally resolved to quit having people handle my hair (mostly because I didn’t have a single person who could handle unblowdried hair.)

So how did that go…

I woke up one morning, after about a month of trying to figure out what I needed and walked into Super cosmetics and picked up Cantu leave in conditioner, made a spray bottle mix and after washing my hair,I applied Cantu and began twisting my hair. Just like that, two strand twists became my go to protective style.

I kept them in for a week, then switched with and updo the following week so that my hair could get to rest then switch back to twists. Doing my hair became my weekend plot. This was of course until I discovered that with good care I could keep the twists in for two weeks… this was pretty much the first six months of my journey. Between me and you tho: there are times when frustration took a hold of me and I just fluffed my fro and walked out of the door.

The Result….

I did a mini length check at the end of month six, and while length wasn’t as significant, I got volume and volume for days.

In the second half of the year…

I embraced the fro, wore it out more often. I learnt the art of doing my puffs, or at least I think so. They became my friend. (I secretly like them because they are easy to put together and usually look so nice effortlessly.) I also wore my two strand twists or did updos to supplement my puffs so that my edges could be spared the strain.

The Result…

I gained volume again, and length…. More than the times I used to regularly heat and braid my hair.

I have been craving extensions of late, I’m not sure I will yield just yet. I am currently extremely content with being able to handle my hair by myself.

What are your favourite protective styles?

love and love

Nyake

Just her

In a world where there are opinions constantly being thrown at us, it gets increasingly difficult to enjoy who we really are. There is always room to be a little of something that we are not. How many times has someone around you told you how you can be a little thinner, a little fatter, a little taller, or even lighter? How many times have we dived into the internet to search for solutions and ideas to get our stomachs to the right size, or to achieve a standard of pretty that society has thrown on us?

Perhaps it is about your significant other… he can be a little richer, or perhaps should be a little older than you. Probably he should have been from a different community or a different person altogether. It could be your religious belief or your lifestyle. It could be anything. Just before you listen to them, PAUSE and take a deep breath.

ACCEPTANCE is key. It is a new (not really) word that I am beginning to incorporate into my journey and my life in general.

ACCEPTANCE is being okay and content with who I am… I always wanted to be a boy, for some reason it seemed so cool. So I tried everything that I thought would draw me nearer to being a boy. The shaggy hair, baggy pants you name it. Unfortunately nothing worked so here I am Just me. This means that I work with being a girl, and be content with being female, to achieve the goals I set for myself.

ACCEPTANCE is capitalizing on my strengths and working on my weaknesses I am very tactile and emotional, something that I am quite nervous about. It works both ways as strength and also the tool to my downfall as it were. I am slowly learning to embrace it as part of my journey and seeking to use my emotional self to reach out to others.

Acceptance is embracing my curves… and flaws… learning that my features serve to enhance the person that I already am and I am becoming. That flaws are special reminders of my journey, where I have been and perhaps where I am headed. They serve as the diversity in all this mix, and that I don’t have to ascribe to anybody’s school of thought if I don’t want to.

Acceptance is being proud of my weirdity… (is this even a word?). Proud that I get to have the perspectives that I have, proud that I have the exposure that I have. Proud to ascribe to my lifestyle however radical it may be. Just proud to be me.

Acceptance is loving B…. loving him just the way he is, loving him to the best of my knowledge and in a way he understands. Loving him in the way we choose…. Focusing on the future ahead rather than the side shows and distractions… refusing to let go in hard times and definitely enjoying the good times we have. Just loving B.

What is the one thing you have had to accept to enjoy being you?

Love and love

Nyake.

Just her 

In a world where there are opinions constantly being thrown at us, it gets increasingly difficult to enjoy who we really are. There is always room to be a little of something that we are not. How many times has someone around you told you how you can be a little thinner, a little fatter, a little taller, or even lighter? How many times have we dived into the internet to search for solutions and ideas to get our stomachs to the right size, or to achieve a standard of pretty that society has thrown on us?

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